How I Became a Blogger {and Why I Blog}


How I Became a Blogger {and Why I Blog} — A Modern Mrs.
We bloggers all have our story. How we came to be. Whether you were pressured by family due to your cookbook-worthy recipes, you were looking for an outlet for trying personal times, or you're passionate about a particular topic, there's a reason why you started. I'd like to share how I came to be as a blogger, and what keeps me going. It's been a somewhat short, but long journey. I've discovered things about myself, what I want from this hobby/profession, and I hope you'll follow along!

What Prompted Me to Start a Blog

I'll never forget. It was the summer of 2010, and J and I were on vacation in the Shenandoah Mountains. We were sitting in the hot tub of our cabin {man, that was awesome}, and we were discussing hopes and dreams over a cup of champagne. {Cup, not glass.... We were rustic!} I was professing my love for writing. Something I had enjoyed since middle school. I remember writing stories on my mother's old Apple computer....

← It looked something like this. I'd start these stories, which were usually teenage stories à la R.L. Stine Fear Street novels, but I'd always get writer's block and could never finish them. I think I'd get ahead of myself, or too involved in character development to really keep on-track with the storyline. Anyway, I was talking about my love of writing and my love of makeup and fashion, and how I wished I could do something with it, but I didn't know what. It was at that point that J suggested I start a blog.

Me? Blog? I laughed it off. I couldn't start a blog. I didn't know the first thing about HTML {besides <b> for bold and whatnot}, and I wasn't nearly as brilliant as the likes of Temptalia and Makeup and Beauty Blog. {She's so witty!} What did I have to offer people? J said I had nothing to lose. If no one read it, or I decided I didn't like it, just quit. Well, when you put it that way... why not!

Once we got home from vacation, I went to Blogger and struggled to create a name. What did I want to call this blog? How could I set myself apart? I wanted a name that would work as a domain. Something people would remember. This took days... It was agonizing. I finally decided on "NeutraKris", due to my love of neutral-toned makeup and my name being Kristen. I stuck with it, but I really hated it. My blog was hideously laid out and designed, and it changed over the three years I had it. I remember purchasing a domain and trying my darnedest to "make it." I wanted to be profesh like Temptalia, but I didn't want to lose sight of who I was, so I kept with the drugstore market and tried my best to write interestingly, but in the end it was for naught.

Readership declined. I just didn't have anything special to offer. Sure, my coding knowledge has improved, and that was valuable experience! I made and maintained professional relationships, some of which carried over to this blog, which I'm truly thankful for. But, with the saturated market that is beauty and fashion, I couldn't get noticed, and it was a very costly venture. I mean, I was purchasing makeup solely for the sake of review, for the sake of material to maintain readership... I was lost in this typhoon of makeup and money and not knowing how to get across to readers.

After a couple of months of trying to figure out what I was doing wrong, and realizing I was flat broke, I had to come to terms with the fact that beauty and fashion blogging {at least exclusively} wasn't for me. I made the announcement and slowly deleted profiles before my domain expired and, naturally, deleted my blog. I was sad. I felt like I had put so much time, effort and, sadly, money into something that failed. I felt like a failure. I loved blogging, and I didn't want to let that go.

The Birth of A Modern Mrs.

Shortly before my beauty blog's demise, I had discovered the world of natural parenting, crunchy living, and Pinterest. I was really into trying to make as many things homemade as possible, and was loving the recipes, tips and discovery of blogs I would've never found otherwise. One morning, while in the shower {Because that's where all great ideas come from, right?}, it hit me. I mean literally, like a bolt of lightening. I perked right up at the sudden spark that was "A Modern Mrs." That's what I'll name the blog! I was so excited because, after all, it took forever to come up with "NeutraKris", only to hate it. This was surely meant to be!

Over the course of the following days, I Google-searched to make sure I wasn't infringing on something that already was, checked social media availability, and then purchased my domain. I checked templates, fiddled around with two before the one you see today, and started posting. I had much more knowledge this time around, but I still didn't know how to reach readers. I was writing about something I loved, and I knew from the first go-round I wanted to remain true to myself. Write like I talk, write like I'm chatting with my friend, but I want people to read... ya know? I mean, after all, half the fun is the interaction! I was loving the fact that I didn't have to spend a dime to write, but I was finding it difficult to come up with post ideas. I didn't know what to write... I had this limitless, topic-less space where I could say and do whatever I want, and yet I was stuck because I wasn't pigeon-held to a specific niche. So, there she sat. {The blog, I mean.}

Then NeutraKris died.

I gave this site a total makeover and decided I wasn't going to solely be the DIYer and recipe-sharing gal I set out to be, but I was going to be everything I am. I'm a wife and mother, so I'll share my family. I love cooking, so I'll share some recipes. I love beauty and fashion {obviously}, so I'll share some makeup looks, a few product reviews and some outfit posts. I love a good deal, and saving money is necessary to our one-income household, so I'll share deals and the money-saving tips I've learned over the years. This will be a "lifestyle blog", and I can be real and it will be fun! {Not that I wasn't real before, but there's something personal about sharing your life and family with the world.}

So, here we are!

Why I Blog

I love writing. Even if it's something as simple and insignificant as sharing a recipe I recently tried... It's writing, and I love it. I love sitting here with a hot drink and pouring myself out to you. I live for this! I live for the satisfaction that is a well-written post. I live for the interaction I get when I see a new comment, or a re-tweet, or a Facebook share. Those make my day!

I blog for a permanent reminder. Whether it's a special day or memory, it's something I can look back on. I blog to help others. If I have done or learned something and passed it on, and you found it helpful or took something away from that, I am happy.

I blog for the relationships. I have met so many great people through my blogs. Some of these people I've never met, but they're some of my best friends. It sounds silly, I know, but it's true. {You know who you are!} Some of these built relationships are professional, but that's important to me... I want my blog to grow, and the only way to do that is to network - both personally and professionally.

What do I want from this blog? Success. What does that mean? For me, that means readers. I want to achieve high readership, but why? Because I want to make lots of friends and have that daily interaction with all of you that fills my heart with joy and love. That's it, guys. I just want to make lots and lots of friends. ♥

If you stuck with me through this lengthy post, I sincerely thank you!

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  1. Love this. I plan on doing a post just like this, this weekend. I actually love blogging now that I blog about various topics, it doesnt feel like a chore, and I reach so many different people. Plus I can blog about what I want to blog about, nothing better than that.

  2. This is How I RollApril 7, 2013 at 2:28 PM

    This blog post inspires me; with less than a week old blog myself, I have the same hopes and dreams for This is How I Roll!

    I appreciate it,


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